Arguing is in human nature to get your view granted, especially between two partners. It’s always not necessary that they lead to humiliating each other or add fuel to the fire, it may be a strong and positive way to find new ways in the course of married life.
Many individuals do not like arguing and want to avoid it anyhow that often results in anger and frustration that begins accumulating deep inside the person. In fact, arguments can clear many things like what is going on inside of you, as the other person cannot be a mind reader. It can illuminate new ways for growth and change.
Confined your emotions and how you feel about him or her will get you nothing, but if you express yourself, it will help in building trust between each other. But while arguing with each other be mindful it should not be full of hatred and anger. When you start feeling that your emotions are getting intense and controlling you, just withdraw and don’t return until you feel relaxed and feelings are settled. Try to make your partner understand about your views and how it can be useful for your relationship.
If your partner is adamant about his or her opinion, don’t push each other to that point where one partner gets upset and things will go beyond your reach, digging the past, remarks on each other’s status or knowledge will worsen the situation. Arguments should be both sided when one is speaking, the second person should listen whether you agree or not, if one partner fails to do so then he or she should not expect to be heard. Disproving each other’s viewpoint is ok, but refused to listen each other makes a discussion useless as one partner’s feelings are suppressed.
If you expect to get heard your feelings and emotions, just listen to your partner and try to understand the meaning behind his or her point of view, putting yourself into his shoe. Every coin has two faces and what you see depends what side of the coin you are…